What You Should Know About Destination Weddings

What You Should Know About Destination Weddings

Destinations can be exciting, but sometimes, they can be stressful–especially if you’re the wedding guest expected to attend. Whether you’re the wedding guest or the wedding couple, there is a lot that you should research when it comes to destination weddings. As the bride and groom, do you think your entire wedding party can afford to attend a destination wedding? Can they afford to take extended time off work? There are far more questions to be answered here, so as the wedding couple, here’s what you should know:

1. What should the couple pay for?
As with all destination weddings, the couple is not expected to cover travel expenses for wedding guests. They are, however, expected to pay for food, drinks, entertainment, decor, and anything else they see fit. As a couple, if you are absolutely convinced you are having a destination wedding, don’t expect everyone to be able to make it. Because it is expected that they cover their travel expenses, this only make it a little more difficult on the wedding guests.

2. What can a couple do to help wedding guests out?
In many cases, the wedding couple will help with accomodations, sometimes even paying part of the expense. At the very least, it is always nice to provide your wedding guests with airline options, directions,  hotel or bed and breakfast options, or book a range of hotel rooms in general for guests to choose from.

3. Is it acceptable to help a guest out who cannot afford to make it otherwise?
Yes and no. This is a tough question. In general, as a wedding couple, you should keep a set of guidelines when it comes to money (also to hurt any feelings). In the event a very close family member or friend needs help with monetary expenses, and if they can keep very quiet about, then it’s ok to help a friend out.

4. When to send out save-the-date invitations?
Unlike many other weddings, destination weddings require planning on both the wedding couple’s part and the guests. Guests will need to know in advance where the wedding is, how many days they will be away, and any other small details that could affect their ordinary routine. The rule of thumb is nine to 12 months to give notice. This gives your guests time to book airline tickets, decide if they can afford it, and in general, time to plan.

5. How to let people know they aren’t invited?
This is a hard topic, especially with destination weddings. Often times, these types of weddings include smaller wedding parties of close friends and family, however, there are always those select few who assume they are invited no matter what. The best response to this is honesty. Explain to your friends that you are having a small, intimate wedding in another location. Even if the wedding party is large, be honest. It could hurt feelings, but it’s better than keeping it from a friend.

About the Author: Helen is a guest contributor from Prospect Hill Plantation Hill, a bed and breakfast located in Louisa, Virginia, providing accomodations, events, and specials for guests, including wedding packages.